“There is perhaps only one thing to say to this infant, who is all future, overlapping briefly with me, whose life, barring the improbable, is all but past.
That message is simply:
When you come to one of the many moments in life where you must give an account of yourself, provide a ledger of what you have been, and done, and meant to the world, do not, I pray, discount that you filled a dying man’s days with a sated joy, a joy unknown to me in all my prior years, a joy that does not hunger for more and more but rests, satisfied. In this time, right now, that is an enormous thing.” Paul Kalanithi, in a letter to his daughter. Excerpt from When Breath Becomes Air
My brother passed away from pancreatic cancer last fall, and I didn’t feel quite ready for When Breath Becomes Air, a Stanford neurosurgery resident’s memoir about his cancer diagnosis. Also, in my work as a clinical librarian, I’d spent time supporting and rounding with clinical staff in neurology/neurosurgery. I had a special affection and respect for the brilliant, hard-working residents, who were about the same age as my sons. So to read about the death of a young resident from lung cancer….
But if you are a living, breathing person who likes to read memoir and nonfiction, and if you consider yourself an engaged participant in our death-denying culture, I would say When Breath Becomes Air is required reading.
One of my favorite authors, Ann Patchett, who owns a bookstore that practices the art of making personal recommendations to readers based on their interests, says, “This is one of the handful of books I consider to be a universal donor – I would recommend it to anyone, everyone.”
On publication, When Breath Becomes Air shot to number 1 on the New York Times Nonfiction Bestseller List. So when I saw Paul Kalanithi’s memoir on our library’s “Most Wanted Book” shelf, I decided to grab it.
Paul Kalanithi set out to be a writer and then switched to medicine and neurosurgery, one of the most challenging and consuming of all clinical disciplines. He believed that a person’s brain determines his identity, which is inseparable from his values and sense of life’s meaning.
Finding meaning was all-important to Kalanithi. During his residency, Paul came to see it was his responsibility to do his best to give his patients the quality of life that would allow them to live according to their most precious values.
We need more doctors who have both the time and desire to get to know and serve their patients in this way, wouldn’t you say?
In his memoir, Kalanithi says the twin pursuits of caring for patients with brain illnesses and writing as a way to explore the meaning of life’s joys and traumas was his perfect calling.
It’s just that he hadn’t planned on doing the writing part until much later in his career. Many months after his diagnosis, when he could no longer work as a neurosurgeon, Paul chose to use his remaining time to write a memoir that, among other things, explores living and dying from the unique perspective of someone who is both a patient and healer.
He and his wife decided to have a child, too. Paul writes of becoming a father with great joy. It reminded me of last summer, when my brother (and our extended family) lived with end-of-life illness, even as we celebrated his daughter’s wedding.
As you can see from the memoir excerpt above, Paul was an extraordinary writer. Medical humanities literature, also known as narrative medicine, written by patients, doctors, nurses, and clinicians, is really coming into its own, and I think When Breath Becomes Air will become a classic.
Paul Kalanithi stands right alongside Anthony Verghese, Danielle Ofri, Sherwin B. Nuland, Tilda Shalof, Theresa Brown, Atul Gawande, Oliver Sachs, and others as one of the best. Really, his memoir is not to be missed.
“The fact of death is unsettling. Yet there is no other way to live.” Paul Kalanithi
Below is the trailer for When Breath Becomes Air.
Have you read When Breath Becomes Air, and what did you think? Have you read another medical humanities or health related memoir, novel, or essay that you have especially liked? Please share your thoughts and recommendations in the comments.
25 thoughts on “When Breath Becomes Air”
I’ve read it twice and just did a review. So moving!
Ha! I had no idea Ann Patchett owned a bookstore. That sounds awesome and I love her description of this book as a universal donor. I love when I stumble across a book I feel I can recommend to anyone and everyone 🙂
Her bookstore in Tennessee sounds amazing!
I too feel that I am not ready to read this book but did watch all the videos. But I have it on my reading list. Thanks, Val
I too feel that I am not ready to read this but did watch almost all the videos you provided. It is on my list though. Thanks!
Ciao Ilary and family
vita e giuseppe sansone
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Valorie Grace Hallinan posted: ” “There is perhaps only one thing to say to this infant, who is all future, overlapping briefly with me, whose life, barring the improbable, is all but past. That message is simply: When you come to one of the many moments in life where you must give “
Ciao vita e Giuseppe!
Remind me to tell you about the Call the Midwife episode I just saw
Ok can’t wait. Email me if you want.
Remind me to tell you about the episode of Call the Midwife I just watched before reading your blog
I have not read or heard of this book. For whatever reason, I have stayed away from books with a medical theme. This one does sound very good.
Only read it if you are in the mood for this sort of thing.
This really was a tremendous read, wasn’t it?
It goes hand in hand with Gawande’s book beautifully too. It should be required reading for all doctors everywhere.
I will never forget Paul. His story has no become one of my stories. Although I haven’t felt brave enough to watch your youtube link….
Yes you’re right about its going with gowande’s book. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
Glad you like it!
Great post! The books is already on my tbr thanks to Deepika, I know so many have been touched by this book. I do enjoy maybe not medical memoirs per se, I’ve really read too few for that,, but I do enjoy history of medicine books like the biography of illness series by Oxford UP. Happy weekend!
Thanks, Bina, and I look forward to seeing your blog!
I was waiting to read your post on this book, Val. You inspire me by reading this, despite this being a not-so-appropriate time. I have noted all the other writers you have mentioned here. Thank you. 🙂
So many of these great and literary writers are from your country, I believe.
I definitely want to read this one, but I think I have to be ready to cry the whole way through. It must have been hard to read it so soon after your brother’s death. But, I hope, also nice in a way.
Yes, I cried but that’s ok!
This gentleman sounds like a very brave young man who instead of focusing totally on his own needs left a memoir for others to learn from. Nice review. 🙂
Yes, it’s great. He and his wife, also a physician, are extraordinary people.