Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now


“This book argues in ten ways that what has become suddenly normal — pervasive surveillance and constant, subtle manipulation — is unethical, cruel, dangerous, and inhumane. Dangerous? Oh, yes, because who knows who’s going to use that power, and for what?”  – Ten Arguments…. by Jaron Lanier

Inventor of virtual reality and Microsoft scientist Jaron Lanier, whom I’ve written about before (You Are Not a Gadget and Who Owns the Future?) encourages us to embrace the internet but warns that social media has become so toxic it is making us unhappy, degrading the social fabric, and threatening our democracy.

He suggests we delete our Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter accounts – not permanently, but long enough to break our addiction. When we’re ready, we can reconnect with social media in a wiser, more detached (less hysterical) way. We should be like cats, he says. When it comes to social media, the best attitude is: take it or leave it.

Specifically, Jaron Lanier would like to see young people who have never experienced life without social media make a complete break for six months. “Get to know yourself”  without the constant distraction and manipulation of social media, Lanier said in a recent interview. “Then, come back and re-engage.”

As for the rest of us, Lanier hopes some of us will disengage so that we can bring a different, more objective perspective to the conversation about the good and ill effects of social media.

The onus isn’t just on us, though; Lanier has been saying ever more urgently that we need a business model different from the current one, in which a few tremendously powerful companies serve advertisers and not us. I don’t think that is going to happen anytime soon. Geniuses that they are, Mark Zuckerberg and others are in over their heads and maybe not even sufficiently concerned. (Read this chilling op-ed, “The Expensive Education of Mark Zuckerberg and Silicon Valley.”

Reviewers have cited Lanier’s first argument as perhaps his most important:

“Argument #1: You are losing your free will


Something entirely new is happening in the world. Just in the last five or ten years, nearly everyone started to carry a little device called a smartphone on their person all the time that’s suitable for algorithmic behavior modification. A lot of us are also using related devices called smart speakers on our kitchen counters or in our car dashboards. We’re being tracked and measured constantly, and receiving engineered feedback all the time. We’re being hypnotized little by little by technicians we can’t see, for purposes we don’t know. We’re all lab animals now.

Algorithms gorge on data about you, every second. What kinds of links do you click on? What videos do you watch all the way through? How quickly are you moving from one thing to the next? Where are you when you do these things? Who are you connecting with in person and online? What facial expressions do you make? How does your skin tone change in different situations? What were you doing just before you decided to buy something or not? Whether to vote or not?”

Here are two provocative examples of social media manipulation Lanier cites:

“A lot of potential Hillary voters were infused with a not-great feeling about Hillary, or about voting at all. Were you one of them? If so, please think back. Were you seeing any information customized for you before the election? Did you use Twitter or Facebook? Did you do a lot of online searches? You were had. You were tricked. Your best intentions were turned against you.”


“After a dramatic series of awful killings of unarmed black citizens by police in the United States, the initial reaction from sympathetic social media users was for the most part wise, stoic, and constructive. It must be said that we might not even have heard much about these killings, their prevalence, or their similarities without social media.

….But…..behind the scenes, a deeper, more influential power game was gearing up. The game that mattered most was out of sight, occurring in algorithmic machinery in huge hidden data centers around the world.

Black activists and sympathizers were carefully catalogued and studied. What wording got them excited? What annoyed them? What little things, stories, videos, anything, kept them glued to BUMMER*? What would snowflake-ify them enough to isolate them, bit by bit, from the rest of society? What made them shift to be more targetable by behavior modification messages over time? The purpose was not to repress the movement but to earn money. The process was automatic, routine, sterile, and ruthless.

A slice of latent white supremacists and racists who had previously not been well identified, connected, or empowered was blindly, mechanically discovered and cultivated, initially only for automatic, unknowing commercial gain…..racism became organized over BUMMER to a degree it had not been in generations.”

(*BUMMER is a cumbersome Lanier acronym, “Behaviors of Users Modified, and Made into an Empire for Rent.)

“Quitting social media is the most finely targeted way to resist the insanity of our times.” – Jaron Lanier


“I hope, dearly, that our times will be remembered as a momentary glitch in a previously smooth progression toward a more democratic world.

But for the moment we face a terrifying, sudden crisis….. the general thinking was that once a country went democratic, it not only stayed that way but would become ever more democratic, because its people would demand that.

Unfortunately, that stopped being true, and only recently. Something is drawing young people away from democracy.”

I subscribe to The Poynter Institute’s newsletter, and in it a recent public opinion survey was cited that seems to bear this out: a plurality of Republicans, and even some Democrats and Independents, think Trump should be given the power to shut down certain media outlets. Forty-eight percent of Republicans in the survey believe “the news media is the enemy of the American people.”

Whether or not we agree with Jaron Lanier, I think engaged citizens need to cultivate a new kind of literacy: an awareness of how social media works and how non-human algorithms are changing our beliefs, behavior, and culture.

And, by the way, Lanier believes the President of the United States is addicted to Twitter.

When I was on a recent hike in the remote foothills of the high desert, someone pointed out the Facebook data center below us – one of the hidden data centers Lanier speaks of in an excerpt above. It is massive, windowless, and heavily guarded.

In a recent interview, Lanier spoke about the challenges that have crept up on us in the digital age: “The solution is to double down on being human,” he said.

If you’re not up for reading Ten Arguments…., you can find excellent interviews with Lanier about his book online.

(When I review a book, I often thank the author for writing it, usually on Twitter. I can’t thank Lanier in this way because he has no social media accounts.)

How do you feel about social media? We have a great discussion going in the comments. Please tell us what you think.

Next: Love and Ruin, by Paula McLain, a novel about the war correspondent Martha Gellhorn, Ernest Hemingway’s third wife (one of those notorious “enemies of the American people”)

16 thoughts on “Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now”

  1. This sounds like a fascinating book. I saw Lanier being interviewed on a BBC news show called ‘Hard Talk’ and he made some interesting comments. He seems fairly balanced, both focusing on the positives and negatives and highlighting the potential dangers involved in the relentless and somewhat clandestine tracking which goes on. I am vaguely hopeful that after a period of difficulty, most people will settle into the social media age recognising that it is a tool and not a way of life and perhaps a balance will eventually be struck. Though perhaps it will get worse before it gets better and in the meantime let’s hope the world isn’t burned. Social platforms like crowdfunding platforms are the other side to the negative coin, and being able to mobilise such a lot of people to do good, to build, to grow and support each other is the flip side which perhaps doesn’t get enough attention.

    1. Yes, I think Lanier still believes in the potential for good with social media. There is so much vitriol, but I think you might be right about this evolving. Certainly our sons, who are in their mid twenties, don’t give social media the time of day – they seem to know better, and I’m glad ab
      out that.

  2. I think there is something to what he is arguing, and it’s frightening how easily we can be manipulated by these silent arguments. That so many people could think the media is the enemy of the people, that they could be conned by someone as blatantly dishonest as Trump, and that some are people I know and love is truly frightening on so many levels.

    1. You said it, Deborah. It is difficult to believe and very frightening. We can’t give up on the truth; and I do think we have to take social media and related digital age issues very seriously. Sometimes I feel as though it is partly laziness – people don’t want to do the work to become informed.

  3. This is certainly a topic that has meaningful issues for all of us. Personally, I don’t spend ten minutes a day on social media. I find it ‘mostly’ full of unnecessary drama, fake stuff, fear mongering, and bad manners. Yes, a family or friend sharing info is nice, but in general I choose to distance myself and life is better without it. I love my blogging community and do enjoy keeping some items on Pinterest and Instagram and the only time I log onto You Tube is to learn how to do something for which it is pretty helpful. Facebook and and Twitter would be out of business base on my usage. 🙂

  4. Interesting! I have a love/hate relationship with social media. But what really concerns me is my children’s relationship with it. As a parent, it’s so hard to know what kind of limits to set and how to set them!

    1. That must be so difficult. Our boys missed most of this latter toxic phase of social media. They are now in their mid twenties, and I find it interesting and hopeful that they hardly give social media the time of day. If you look on their dormant FB feeds they have hundreds of friends, but spend no time there. It was like a phase that they outgrew, and I think they are amused by older folks who become so wrapped up in it. So, there is hope, your kids will likely see through all this, with your guidance, and maybe even lose interest. Perhaps this is a sign of hope – younger generations coming up will be wiser.

  5. i m out of step with the rest of the world obviously – I don’t Twitter, do Facebook, Pinterest or anything else… I don’t use a mobile phone… and I don’t watch TV… but my life is rich and full and stimulating… I read that the time that children spend on games and technology and the internet is actually reducing their intelligence and mental age, I see that psychologists are saying that parental indifference to their children while they are on their phones or whatever, is causing huge emotional problems for children; and the bullying and trolling of people who speak out by mindless political activists means that too many people dare not raise their voices for causes that demand it for fear of being labelled racist, sexist, etc etc
    I find these developments of so-called ‘social media’ appalling. It’s as though good nature, courtesy, good manners, kindness, common sense have all been dissipated by the ability to hide behind the internet in all its forms. I try not to feel pessimistic, but I do fear for a society. which is being polluted by this unstoppable juggernaut.

    1. So many challenges. Lanier does say that social media has been positive, too, and has great potential, but not as things stand. I’m hoping we can all learn to channel this technology for the greater good. Personally, I don’t enjoy social media any longer; I’d prefer to be off of it completely, but it is one way to promote my blog – although not all that effective, to tell the truth. I liked life without social media better, although I haven’t always felt this way – when we first all signed up for FB, etc I found it quite exciting. And, as an academic/medical librarian, I had to know how to use social media, in part so I could teach it to others.

  6. Beautiful review, Valorie! This looks like a fascinating book and an important read for our times! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    1. Thanks Vishy. If you happen to read it, I’d really like to know what you think – as one of my social media friends who uses social media so well and for the good. It’s a really short, quick read.

      1. I will try to read it soon and share my thoughts with you, Valorie. It is definitely an important book for our times.

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